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Starting is the hardest part!

How many times have you said – “I’m DONE!”

Yea… me too.

So many of us start something… then we find ourselves extremely discouraged… then we quit. Just like that. It can happen over the course of a year, a month, a week and even a day! I will be the first to admit that I am VERY impatient! It’s a curse. I want things to happen NOW!

But some things in life take time. And that’s OK!

It's a process!

Change doesn’t have to be feared! What is feared the most is the uncertainty – are you going to fail or are you going to succeed? Is the change really for you? Even though you might be unhappy, at least you are somewhat comfortable. Right?

But is comfortable the best for you right now?

Change should be a series of actions that are planned out. It takes preparation to succeed with any new change in your life. Whether it’s changing careers, losing weight, relationships or moving, there is a certain order that needs to be clearly planned out before you can succeed. I asked this exact question over on my facebook page and I quickly saw three answers that really stood out to me:


  • Fear of Failing
  • Starting
  • Having no support

So let’s talk about each one because they all have a connection!


Oh man – the starting point! How scary and exciting all at the same time, right?! You have good intentions – YOU ARE FINALLY GOING TO DO IT THIS TIME! But… somewhere in the shuffle you lose that motivation and you find yourself giving up on the goal you once set out to accomplish.

It has happened to every single person!

So now what happens is whenever you feel the need to start again or something new, you think back at the time you failed yourself and gave up. Not wanting to go through that again, you choose to NOT start again! Sound familiar?

When you start you must PLAN! Planning is key – you must have the proper tools in place so that you can succeed and achieve your goal!

And you must find that inner fire and light it up! A few days ago I wrote a post on the steps you take when you hit ROCK BOTTOM. Some great tips – go check it out!


I cannot begin to express how IMPORTANT it is to have constant support around you! No matter what you are trying to achieve, you NEED to have support! People cheering you on, helping you anyway possible and to be there when you feel like giving up. Life is not easy and you should be very aware of who you choose to keep around when going through changes! Find that support group that you can trust!

I love creating online support groups because we are all face the same struggles! You are not alone and if you feel alone then you need to seek some support! Just reach out and ASK!

FEAR Yes – starting something new is FEARFUL! What if I fail? What if I quit? What if it doesn’t work? What if I made the wrong choice?

Stop the negative talk RIGHT NOW!

So what if you fail! So what if it doesn’t work! So what if you quit! SO WHAT!

Wouldn’t you rather go through life knowing that you TRIED? I know I would! What if you DIDN’T fail! What if you DIDN’T quit! What if it ACTAULLY WORKED OUT JUST FINE!

I am not going to say it’s going to be easy. Because you will have to work at whatever it is you are changing. But believe in yourself! Believe that you are strong enough to accomplish anything you want to achieve! Believe that you are in control and that you have the power!

Fear will hinder your sight of the goal line. Fear will break you down. Fear will STOP YOU. But fear is something that YOU have created inside of yourself. Do you know what fear stands for? False Evidence Appearing Real

Yes, I have fear in my life. Yes, I know fear is very difficult to get past. But with proper planning, support and a solid goal in mind, FEAR should not be a issue!

I am planning on taking each of these subjects to the next level and dive a bit deeper, giving you some great take away tips that you can use in your daily life!

I hope you found value in this post. My main objective is I don’t want you to think you are alone – you are NOT alone! I also want you to see your self worth and create the life you deserve!


One thought on “Starting is the hardest part!

  1. Great post. This has been the year of change for me. I have learned that I love challenging myself in ways, that will make my life better. I think that we are afraid of changes because we have been taught that it’s not okay to quit, but really sometimes it is okay. If you try something and give it your all, and decide that maybe this wasn’t the right thing for you, then at least you tried! I think people often think they will be looked at as weak, rather than the strong person that they really are.

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